People you see on TV may pronounce staying married "impossible." Or say the very idea of it runs counter to human nature.
- It's not up to our husbands to make us happy.
Despite the stuff of romance novels and movies, our happiness is up to us.
- We marry human beings, not romance novel heroes.
Ask any wife. A husband's idea of "romance" seldom matches a wife's. Chalk it up to differences in the way males and females think.
- Subtle hints almost never work. Guys don't do subtle.
Being female we know how to sulk and do the silent treatment. (This enables us to ruin any good day or great evening for both our lover and ourselves.) I haven't found that to be much fun, have you?
- It's not fair to expect our husbands to make everything "right" in our lives.
They're human beings, as limited in their capabilities as we are.
- Making our husbands feel good about who they are costs us nothing except thoughtfulness.
Besides, isn't that what each of us wants for the man we love? (Who knows? Feeling more secure, he may reciprocate.)
- When our husbands totally focus on a problem or a project, it's not because they're shutting us out.
Most men naturally compartmentalize their thinking. Most women can keep several concerns spinning at the same time. We are endowed by our Creator with certain inalienable qualities.
- Being opposites can be a good thing.
Like most other couples, my husband and I sport individual strengths and weaknesses. That used to make me fret. Now I know we complete each other so I've come to appreciate those same traits. Together we are more than either of us on our own.
- Mutual trust is like gold.
Trust takes a long time to build and can be lost in an instant, so it's worth guarding. That's why we need to watch our deeds and affirm each other frequently. Our words can mean more than we know.
- Respect nourishes love.
That means we resist the temptation to put each other down in front of others, even with "humor." If we want our kids to respect their father, we need to watch how we speak of him--and to him. It's wise to save complaints for when you're alone.
- Simple kindness makes life better for both.
We adjust and make allowances for our friends without getting upset. (We say, "Oh, you know how he or she is" and let it go. ) When we do the same for our husbands we bless their lives--and ours.
- It helps keep the spark alive between wife and husband when we talk "we" before "you" and "you" before "me."
Unless nurtured, marriage relationships can wither, even die. Mom and Dad's relationship needs to come before The Children, unless they are infants or there's an emergency.
- A life built on shared faith in God helps a couple withstand life's storms.
That faith provides a "why" to hang onto so we can keep on loving through whatever comes. (If we're spiritually single, faith provides strength and comfort.)
- In short, most of the time we get back what we give out.
Take it from me, you have what it takes to live this way
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. NKJV